Marriage

Details: Published: Wednesday, 09 April 2025 00:17; Written by evalverde.com

“And the Lord God said: It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him” Genesis 2:18

After making this declaration, The Lord our God moved to create Eve, in the form that the Holy Scriptures describe. And by the Creator’s determination, the first marriage was formed, from which all mankind comes. Initiating with this marriage, the Word of God tells us of the first family, of the corresponding tragedies and of the multiplication of the human race upon the face of the earth. But before all this happened, when Adam was by himself in the Garden of Eden, he surely lorded over all the creation. He gave names to all the animals, terrestrials, aquatic and volatile. By the will of the Creator, all the created beings recognized man as lord of them. But all that, Adam was not complete, he was alone and the Lord Himself declared that is wasn’t good for man to be alone. God could have created two or three men at the same time that He made Adam so that he wouldn’t be alone, but that is not the companionship to which in this case the Scripture is referring to. It is referring to the part that is complimentary to the man, the part that makes him complete: The women, “an help meet for him” (Genesis 2:18), said the Lord.

By the way, God could have created the women at the same time He created man, but He didn’t do it that way, and I that we find a Divine purpose and this is that the Lord wanted Adam to be ALONE sufficient time so that by the time he was to have his “HELP MEET” he would appreciate and value the importance of marriage. And Adam understood it that way, his exclamation denotes what he felt as he awoke from that dream: “And Adam said, this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man” (Genesis 2:23).What he felt for that being that was now at his side was not to be compared to what he had felt for all the other beings of creation. This was a new experience for him, it was none other than the love that was making his feelings vibrate like he never experienced. And Adam loved his wife and he loved her so much that when she was deceived by the serpent, ADAM also from his own account (because he wasn’t deceived I Timothy 2:14) ATE OF THE FORBIDDEN FRUIT SO SHE WOULDN’T BE CAST OUT OF PARADISE ALONE, and he also be left alone as he was all the time that he didn’t have his wife.

I have to open a parenthesis here y point out, for the benefit of and joy of my brother, who reads this article, el MARVELOUS SYMBOLISM we find in this account: The second Adam (Christ) loved His bride (the Church) so much that because of His love for her “For he hath made him to be sin for us” (II Corinthians’ 5:21, Galatians 3:13), so she (the church) having been also deceived by the serpent (Satan) by the love and faith in the second Adam(I Corinthians 15:45), the Lord Jesus Christ the Groom (Ephesians 5:25) COULD COME BACK TO PARADISE (2 Corinthians 12:4; Rev. 2:7) and that way she (the bride, the church) could be with her beloved FOREVER (I Thessalonians 4:17).

The apostle Paul describes marriage as a “mystery” that it has, in the spiritual aspect, it is certainly a tremendous meaning, but in the natural it also has such a great importance that precisely for not understanding it, many Christian marriages live unhappy and in a lamentable spiritual ruin, to such degree that THE PRAYERS OF BOTH (husband and wife) ARE HINDERED (1 Peter 3:7). The marriage is, therefore, by the absolute will of the Creator, the basic and fundamental institution of the human race. Just as the first marriage was important to God, the billions of marriages that He has united continue to be as important. This is why the commandment of the Lord continues its stringency when He says: “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matthew 19:6).

Marriage is basic unity of humanity itself. It’s the basic unity of the nations, from the small one to the most populated. It has always been the basic unity in Israel, since its origin until the present day, the Jewish people; and they, based in the Holy Book, they are until this day the race that have placed great important and care to the sacred aspect of marriage. Marriage is also the basic in the Lord’s Church. Since the families, fruit of the Christian marriages, have been until this day the principle and stronger pillars in the congregations and Christian communities. The instruction of the theme of marriage is therefore of capitol importance, amongst the believers in Jesus Christ the Lord, THE DEVIL KNOWS WELL THAT THE BEST FORM OF DESTROYING GOD’S WORK IS BY DESTROYING THE MARRIAGES.

The marriage relation is, by the initiative of the Creator Himself, a marvelous combination between the man and the women that covers all the aspects of the human life; the physical, moral, in the material, economic, cultural sense, and etc. but above all in the spiritual sense. When the Christian spouses have discovered the “mystery” (Eph. 5:32) of marriage and have found “the combination” to agree y understand each other in all the aspects of their life, “unity” can turn into a very special blessing from God Himself, and not only to their own children but also to all the people that surround them and more particularly to their brothers and fellow workers in the service of the Lord Jesus. It is indispensably needful, especially for this reason, that in the marriages in the Church of the Lord, and more in the ministry, that there be the necessary instruction so that each matrimony will reach the spousal goal and level that the Lord desires amongst His people.

In the course of my years in the ways of the Lord (referring myself more particularly to Cristian environment amongst the Latin-Americans), I have considered with sadness and even with desperation, how the devil has worked in the minds and hearts of many of my brethren, ministers and members of the churches, the idea that talking publicly and dealing openly with the topic of marriage is inappropriate and even embarrassing because they think that it is a “carnal” topic. The reality is that many of those that believe are the ones that in more need of instruction in their conjugal life, being that it is from the CENTER OF THE INTIMATE LIFE OF MARRIAGE, of which one or two are cultivated, THE MOST TREMENDOUS ROOTS OF BITTERNESS OR THE MOST MARVELOUS SOURCES OF HUMAN SPIRITUAL HEALTH.

None of the all the human relations can replace the spousal relation, being that from it and I repeat, only of it said the Lord: “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). The mother herself after having in her bosom the child of her bowls, after giving birth to him, feeding and raised in her care, the came when that child became a man had to separate MARRIAGE International Periodical Maranatha 8 from her to form “another unity”. But the mother continues to be the wife of her husband, the father of her children, both of them being “one flesh”. By the way, I have seen that, the relation of the children to their parents, which is sacred, has become a subtle instrument, used by the enemy to destroy the “unity” of the marriage of the parents. When the latter are not aware of the importance and mutual responsibilities of their marital relation, without realizing they can be taken to family and also spiritual ruin.

But not only the children or other factors of natural type can the enemy use to ruin a marriage, but he can also use sacred things in the service to God. There have been many ministers of the Lord who have ruined their own marriage, family and their own ministry when they become totally immersed in “the work of the Lord”, they have believed that it is not important to give time to attend his wife as a women because “that is carnal”, they say. Elevated to a “level of spiritual superiority”, according to their sincere way of thinking, they have carelessly ignored a warning “so carnal”, according to them, like the one that the Holy Scriptures point out: “Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. But she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband” (I Corithians 7:5, 33, 34).

When the Holy Spirit, through the instrumentality of the apostle Paul councils saying “A bishop (the pastor) then must be blameless, the husband of one wife” (I Tim. 3:2), is with the intention of emphasizing the importance of the “unity” of marriage and the need of that “unity” so that he also may be effective in the work of the ministry. It is certain that the apostle Paul mentions also the eunuchs and the gift of continence, but we are all aware that those are exceptions, the normal and regular course of life the man and the woman (beginning with the servants of God), is through the marriage channel. The ministers who have ignored these Divine warnings have damaged their own selves, to their wife, the family and the believers in Christ whom they serve.

What has been said to the ministers most certainly applies also, in their level, to the each and every Christian husband, but there is also the part that is pertains to the wife of a faithful Christian or minister. Many women, wives of a faithful Christian or minister who have unconsciously ruined their marriage, their family and even the spiritual life or the ministry of her husband for wanting to consecrate herself to such degree (according to them in their sincerity) that being in fasting and occupied in the things of the Lord, have forgotten the Divine warning that have already cited. Those of use that have been united by the Lord in marriage must always have in mind that the Lord Himself warns us that it is our sacred responsibility (husband and wife) to conserve those bonds of that “unity” in all its aspects. The biblical bases upon which a happy home can be built in the conjugal life have been established in the word of the Lord: “Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it” (Ephesians 5:24-25).

The Christian spouses who have believed that it is possible to take for granted what has been established here by God in relation to the married life and that both have been negligent to fulfill the basic the pointed out ordinances have had to taste the BITTER EXPERIENCES that God cannot be mocked (Galatians 6:7). On the other hand, those of us who have discovered “the combination” according to the keys that the Holy Word of God gives us, we are witnesses (I say we, because my wife and I are in this number) of the marvelous, yes, marvelous happiness and of the natural and spiritual blessings that come from God when the matrimonies live in accordance to Creator’s established order.

What has been said applies to the spouses of all ages and in all the times, but it is logical to understand that the more age and more years in the married life that we may have “OUR RESPONSIBILITY IS GREATER. It is no secrete the fact that many young couples have been disrupted because of the wrong example they have received from their parent’s marriage. The son grew up seeing that his father never demonstrated his love to his mother, and that he does as well with his young wife because he believes that is the correct way of treating his wife. The daughter also grew up seeing the irreverent and rude way that her mother treated her father and that is what she also does with her young husband.

How many old and ignorant mothers, calling themselves servants of the God, have also ruined their children’s marriage? Some, wanting to continue having their sons under their wings just as when they were adolescents, but prying now into the private matters of their conjugal life, forgetting that their son and his wife are now “ANOTHER UNITY”, and that in their marriage they are now “ONE FLESH”. Other mothers, wanting to govern her daughter as if she was still her little girl, not allowing her to be the responsible and woman and wife of her own matrimony, the old mother in-law is in everything, even advising her to not submit to her husband, without understanding what great curse and ruin she is pouring into her own children and the judgment that before the Lord she is bringing upon herself and most likely also upon her husband, if he as an older and experienced man, knowing the evil that his wife is putting on herself, does not take his place as a man to avoid it. This topic is very wide and what we have pointed out is only a small part of what we could say in the entirety of the subject. But our prayer is before the Lord is this small portion that has been written could be of help to more than one of our brethren in Christ, especially to the privileged marriages where both know and serve the Lord. That they may appreciate how valuable their matrimony is before God and how much their marital relation has to do even with the salvation of their souls.

The purpose of this writing, as the title indicates, is to emphasize how important marriage is in the Church of the Lord, and being aware of that all husbands and wives be awake to the truth of God so we don’t become victims of the devil’s deceitfulness.

To conclude I want to point out that amongst us (and amongst our brothers who read this periodical) there are some who lament that they didn’t receive fundamental advise and council as we have pointed out here in time and now they are suffering the consequences. I believe that I can justly suggest to some Christian couple that having problems and one of the two is thinking that it is best to just separate from their spouse, to talk those whose marriage has been destroyed for not applying the remedy in time and you will see what God can tell you through that brother who now lives alone or also from that sister who now laments what happened in her conjugal life that now destroyed. As I end, I tell you my beloved brother, companion in the ministry: Don’t neglect your marriage, LOVE YOUR WIFE! And to you my beloved sister in the Lord, BE SUBJECT TO YOUR HUSBAND!

Marriage

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